I started this about oh…two weeks ago? Sigh…unfortunately life got in the way and this was thought of of course when I couldn’t finish it…so finally have the chance to do so!! I still feel this is worth sharing and worth telling, and feel that maybe the wait was needed because now I have more to share then I would have the night I was writing this…
Riding home from a school concert tonight K-Love caught my attention with something they were talking about…Kelly was talking about how we too quickly let people into our hearts, mostly those of us who happen to be single and looking for someone to fill that void.
How even when we aren’t looking for a boyfriend, but when talking about friends, how we too quickly let people into our inner circles, into our hearts.
How true this is!!!
Kelly then shared a conversation between a Mother and a daughter that was applicable to this, and really brought this issue into perspective…I want to share this here because this really is something we could all use in our lives!:
1 Corinthians 13:4-6
4Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud 5or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 6It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out.
She told her daughter to put the boys name that she likes in every sentence, making the sentence about that boy, and if it was true to him, then it was a good choice. By doing this the daughter did bring to mind that he was a bit of a bully, and at times wasn’t very nice.
Too often we don’t have boundaries, or if we do, we don’t keep to them. There are times that we meet someone, and we want to be friends with them or really like them, but they do this…and they sometimes do that that really hurt our feelings. Yet, we take this! Why?
As survivors of Domestic Violence, we know violence. We understand violence from our partners…yet we too often dismiss those “red flags” we see early on in our potential partners and/or friends. We NEED healthy relationship skills! We NEED to set boundaries, and demand that no violence or abuse will be tolerated by us. We NEED to see ourselves as someone that loves others, and DESERVES to be loved in return!
Recently I spoke at a local shelter, sharing my story…and one thing I told those women was this…
“If you wouldn’t leave your child with the person that you are wanting to date, or even a friend…then why would you want to have any kind of relationship with them?” Put it in the perspective of your child, or pretend you have one if you don’t at this time…too often we will be “Mama & Papa Bears” when it comes to protecting our children from even a mean look or word…yet we take it ourselves!
Hmmm…something to work on…
~AngelHugz~
Tracy
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